The Claddagh is an Irish symbol for love (heart), loyalty (crown) and friendship (hands). Claddagh rings are traditionally passed down through generations of female family members. A single lady would wear it on her right hand with the point of the heart towards her fingertips. Once she is in a relationship, she flips the ring so the point is toward her wrist. When she’s engaged, she moves the ring to her left hand with the point towards her fingertips. Once she is married the point is again flipped toward the wrist.
Horseshoes are historically known for their good luck. Irish brides carry them down the isle and then use them as a fixture over a door in the couple’s home for continuing good fortune. Make sure the horseshoe is carried upright as a “U”, if it’s turns upside down, story goes the luck may run out!
Champagne is our go to toast beverage today, but in Ireland there was a time champagne was in short supply, so they used Poteen or Mead to toast the happy couple. Poteen is a very strong Whiskey made from potatoes. Mead is an Anglo-Saxon drink originally made by Monks and consists of white wine mixed with honey and herbs. Mead supposedly possessed fertility powers, so the bride and groom were to drink mead for one full moon after their wedding – giving us the word “honeymoon”.
A familiar Irish toast:
May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the sun shine warm upon your face
and the rain fall soft upon your fields
And until we meet again my friend
May God hold you in the palm of his hand
A coin or a “sixpence” is given to the bride for good luck and safety on the wedding day. It could also be from the groom to show his support for her. Historically, a lord gave his lady the coin for her to place in her shoe.
The Emerald Isle gives us visions of green, but blue is actually supposed to bring the bride good luck on her wedding day! So don’t forget that “something blue” along with your old, new and borrowed.
Braids in the hair is an ancient Irish symbol of power and luck.
Irish brides tend to use wildflowers either in their bouquets or wreaths for their hair.
Generally passed through the generations, the bride would carry a hanky on her wedding day and save it to later be used as a christening bonnet for her first born. They are usually made from linen or lace.
Bells are believed to ward off evil spirits from the pending marriage.
When leaving the church in ancient times, an old shoe was tossed over the head of the Bride for luck – Just be sure to duck!
A long held Irish tradition of literally “tying the knot”. To read more about handfasting, check out my previous blog CLICK HERE
There are SO many wonderful poems, quotes and literary excerpts out there you can use for readings during your ceremony, but these are 10 of my favorites. I especially love the Bob Marley quote even if it is a little lengthy J
"The Irrational Season" by Madeleine L'Engle
"But ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take…It is indeed a fearful gamble…Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature.
To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take…If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation…It takes a lifetime to learn another person…When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often rejected."
"Gift From The Sea" by Anne Morrow Lindbergh
"When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity -- in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.
The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits -- islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides."
"Sonnet from the Portuguese, XLIII" by Elizabeth Barrett Browning
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! – and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.
Excerpt from "The Prophet" by Khalil Gabran (aka Kahlil Gibran)
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise on your lips.
"My Luve" by Robert Burns
O my luve is like a red, red rose,
That`s newly sprung in June:
O my luve is like the melodie,
That`s sweetly played in tune.
As fair art thou, my bonie lass,
So deep in luve am I;
And I will luve thee still, my dear,
Till a` the seas gang dry.
Till a` the seas gang dry, my dear,
And the rocks melt wi` the sun;
And I will luve thee still my dear,
While the sands o` life shall run.
And fare thee weel, my only luve!
And fare thee weel a while!
And I will come again, my luve,
Tho` it were ten thousand mile
“THE ART OF MARRIAGE” by Wilfred A. Peterson
A good marriage must be created. The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating
gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual, and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
Bob Marley quote
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colors seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
― Bob Marley
"The Magic of Love", by Helen Steiner Rice
“Love is like magic, and it always will be,
For love still remains life's sweet mystery.
Love works in ways that are wondrous and strange,
And there's nothing in life that love cannot change!
Love can transform the most commonplace
Into beauty and splendor and sweetness and grace.
Love is unselfish, understanding and kind,
For it sees with its heart, and not with its mind.
Love is the answer that everyone seeks;
Love is the language that every heart speaks.
Love can't be bought, it is priceless and free.
Love, like pure magic, is life's sweet mystery!!”
"The Key to Love" by Anon, 1st century China
"The key to love is understanding ...
The ability to comprehend not only the spoken word,
but those unspoken gestures,
the little things that say so much by themselves.
The key to love is forgiveness ....
to accept each other’s faults and pardon mistakes,
without forgetting, but with remembering
what you learn from them.
The key to love is sharing ...
Facing your good fortunes as well as the bad, together;
both conquering problems, forever searching for ways
to intensify your happiness.
The key to love is giving ...
without thought of return,
but with the hope of just a simple smile,
and by giving in but never giving up.
The key to love is respect ...
realizing that you are two separate people, with different ideas;
that you don't belong to each other,
that you belong with each other, and share a mutual bond.
The key to love is inside us all ...
It takes time and patience to unlock all the ingredients
that will take you to its threshold;
it is the continual learning process that demands a lot of work ...
but the rewards are more than worth the effort ...
and that is the key to love."
"The Promise" by Eileen Rafter
"The sun danced on the snow with a sparkling smile,
As two lovers sat quietly, alone for a while.
Then he turned and said, with a casual air
(Though he blushed from his chin to the tips of his hair),
"I think I might like to get married to you"
"Well then, she said, "Well there's a thought,
But what if we can't promise to be all that we ought,
If I'm late yet again, when we plan to go out.
For I know I can't promise, I'll learn to ignore
Dirty socks and damp towels strewn all over the floor.
So if we can't vow to be all that we should
I'm not sure what to do, though the idea's quite good".
But he gently smiled and tilted his head
Till his lips met her ear and softly he said
"I promise, to weave my dreams into your own,
That wherever you breathe will be my hearts home.
I promise, that whether with rags or with gold I am blessed
Your smile is the jewel I will treasure the best.
Do you think then, my love, we should marry - do you?"
"Yes" she said smiling "I do".
The Bible has some very insightful verses about love, these are my 10 favorites.
Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor.
For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.
Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?
And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.
1 Corinthians 13
Book of Corinthians: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails.”
I John 4:7-19
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
By this the love of God was manifested in us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world so that we might live through Him.
In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins.
Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.
No one has seen God at any time; if we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us.
By this we know that we abide in Him and He in us, because He has given us of His Spirit.
We have seen and testify that the Father has sent the Son to be the Savior of the world.
Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God.
We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.
By this, love is perfected with us, so that we may have confidence in the day of judgment; because as He is, so also are we in this world.
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love.
We love, because He first loved us.
Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away.
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the beasts from the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So, the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So, the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, ..."
“Entreat me not to leave you, Or to turn back from following after you; For wherever you go, I will go; And wherever you lodge, I will lodge; Your people shall be my people, And your God, my God. Where you die, I will die, And there will I be buried. The Lord do so to me, and more also, If anything but death parts you and me."
Love poem between two lovers (Song of Solomon, 2:10-13; 8:6-7)
My beloved speaks and says to me:
‘Arise, my love, my fair one,
and come away;
for now the winter is past,
the rain is over and gone.
The flowers appear on the earth;
the time of singing has come,
and the voice of the turtle-dove
is heard in our land.
The fig tree puts forth its figs,
and the vines are in blossom;
they give forth fragrance.
Arise, my love, my fair one,
and come away.’
Set me as a seal upon your heart,
as a seal upon your arm;
for love is strong as death,
passion fierce as the grave.
Its flashes are flashes of fire,
a raging flame.
Many waters cannot quench love,
neither can floods drown it.
If one offered for love
all the wealth of one’s house,
it would be utterly scorned.
A reading from the holy Gospel according to Mark 10:6-9
“From the beginning of creation,
God made them male and female.
For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother
and be joined to his wife,
and the two shall become one flesh.
So they are no longer two but one flesh.
Therefore what God has joined together,
no human being must separate.”
The Gospel of the Lord.
Why Hire a Professional Wedding Officiant
This is an exciting time in your life and you want your family and friends involved as much as possible! Since just about anyone can get ordained over the internet, you may be considering choosing someone close to you to perform your ceremony. Here a few reasons why you should consider a professional instead:
#1 Experience – Professional Officiants have knowledge and experience that only comes with time. They can write and ceremony that flows and perform it with ease and confidence. They help manage your day for you and your guests and handle any unforeseen circumstances that may come up; Making a less stressful day for you!
#2 Leadership – A professional will take the lead. They will be the point person at rehearsal to direct your bridal party, answer any questions and make sure everyone’s knows what to do and when. A wedding day can be chaotic and emotional, you will need someone you can rely on to confidently and camly guide everyone through, especially if you don’t have a coordinator.
#3 Personal, but Professional – A good Officiant will make your ceremony personal, but keep it professional. You will feel like you have more say in your ceremony without thinking you’re hurting family or friends feelings. They will perform your ceremony with emotion, but will not get emotional. Someone close to you may get a little too choked up or get caught up in the moment loosing the flow of the ceremony.
It’s important to get your friends and family involved in your ceremony! If they’re not in the bridal party, they can perform songs or readings, seat guests, or pass out programs. But mostly you want them to enjoy your special day too! Let the professionals take the lead ☺
Hand Fasting: A unique alternative to declare your devotion!
Looking for something different to show your commitment to each other than a unity candle or sand ceremony? Hand Fasting is an Irish (and Scottish) tradition where the bride and groom’s hands are tied together during the ceremony. Hence the phrase….”tying the knot”. Hand Fasting is a historical term meaning betrothal or wedding. It was derived from Old Norse: Hand Festa meaning “to strike a bargain by joining hands”. The handshake we use today to make a commitment comes from Hand Fasting….”Let’s shake on it”.
Hand Fasting can be a truly meaningful way to express your devotion to your marriage, love for each other and bind you together. Here are some tips and ways to incorporate this tradition into your ceremony; whether you’re Irish (or Scottish) or not!
• Choose a ribbon, rope or a piece meaningful material to use for the binding. 48” should be long enough. Traditionally, your bindings should be braided. The Celetics believed evil spirits would get lost in the weaving. Colors can symbolically represent the elements you wish to bring to your marriage.
• Talk to your officiate regarding wording a placement in your ceremony. You will be standing facing each other, right hands extended. Your officiate, maid of honor or best man will wrap your wrists as your officiate speaks. When they are finished you will be unwrapped and proceed with your ceremony. Be sure to keep your bindings in a box for pre and post ceremony storage so it doesn’t get tangled.
• Have a “ribbon” bearer present your bindings. They can enter with the rest of the bridal party or present it just before you begin.
• Save your bindings as a keepsake. Traditionally, after the wedding they are hung over the bed to bring protection.
There is so much information on this fascinating tradition. For an example ceremony and to find out more, go to http://www.vowsoftheheart.com/…/handfasting-wedding-ceremo…/
Need more help with your handfasting ceremony? Contact me!
Hola! As Cinco de Mayo is nearing, let’s talk a little about the holiday itself, it’s typically quite the fiesta!
The 5th of May celebrates The Battle of Puebla in 1862, as the Mexican militia was victorious over the French Army. Cinco de Mayo has become popular along the U.S.-Mexico border and in areas of the U.S. that have Mexican heritage. Many cities promote the holiday through parades and concerts, accompanied by Mexican food and beverages.
To throw a successful Cinco de Mayo party, incorporate all the aspects that you would see if you traveled near Mexico for this holiday. A few dishes that are typically served include Chicken Mole Enchiladas, Mexican Rice, and Chicken Tostadas.
Mexican Rice - http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/paula-deen/mexican-rice-recipe.html
For an adult fiesta, some popular alcoholic beverages include Horchata and Margaritas.
Desserts include Flan, Churros, and Mexican Brownies.
The Mexican flag’s colors are red, white, and green. So there’s a good start for your color scheme, but typically there’s a myriad of colors associated with a fiesta. Mexican customs can be incorporated into your decorations. Sombreros, rugs, flags, and of course piñatas can create a festive atmosphere.
This day is great for bringing friends and family together to celebrate Mexican traditions we've grown to know!
Divertirse! (have fun!)
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October 4th, The Ford Piquette Plant: Kirsta and John
Thank you to: Pat with the Piquette Plant, Phil with Mike Staff Productions, Carolyn and Lorraine with 2 Unique, Jody Costello Floral, Amanda Gerling Photo (although these photos I took. I'm sure hers will be better!) Rachel Angelo (sweets table) and Detroit Bridal Beauty for creating such a special day for Kirsta and John!!
CERTUS Automotive Employee Appreciation Party! Thank you to: Sweet and Savory Bake Shop, Display Group, Tom Atkins with 1, 2 Entertainment,... Caya Smokehouse, Rudy's Catering, Bernie Stevens, Knights Party Rental, A1 Valet, Tap Snap and last but certainly not least; My hardworking assistant Sara for making this such a fabulous and fun event!!
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